In the wake of the uefa champions league quarter finals which just ended, the question which have bothered me thru out is whether chelsea had cheated. As most of u guys know, and for those who don't, the chelsea manager, jose "i am arrogant and dishonest" mourinho was banned from any contact or communication with his staff and players during both legs of the quarter finals. However, there was speculation that the team's fitness coach, this loser called rui faria, was spotted wearing a woolly hat on a warm evening and seems to be passing messages to the assistant manager. Was that mourinho? Nobody knows whether they cheated or not, nobody except themselves. But for pple like myself, I would love to believe that they did, which would make hating them more justified because they cheated.
Nobody likes cheaters, whether it being in the champions league or in events that occupy our everyday lives. Cheaters are despised and hated because they gain an upper hand over others using unscrupulous methods and this disgusts pple because nobody likes to be disadvantaged and more importantly, cheaters reduce the winning chances of their opponents significantly and nobody likes losing.
One question though, who can dare say he or she has never ever cheated in his or her whole life before. Not many I would say, and those who say they have never cheated, well, I think u are lying, period.
I have cheated, many times, exams, tests, football games, cheated my friends and my love ones.
The most notable being the PSLE prelims in pri where my whole class,with the exception of 1, came together and we cheated right under the teacher's nose. Every single paper. Mind u, this is an EM 1 class, most of us(not inclusive of myself though) moved onto top secondary schools and top JC and most possibly top universities. We were busted 2 weeks after the exams, not because the teachers saw thru our plan, our plan was perfect, the teachers didn't have a clue. It was so perfect, I guess that 1 exception in my class could not take the fact that most of us did well( tt guy is one of the top students by the way), even the mediocore students like myself. So one fine monday morning, he stood in front of the whole class and told the teacher every single detail.( Right down to how the tissue papers we used to pass answers were destroyed by blowing our noses into it). So, what did u expect? The standard punishment for a exam like this was to be barred from exams for up to 3 years if I remember correctly, so if that is the case, then my whole class would miss our PSLE.
What happened then?
I went on to Montfort Secondary the followin year, some of my classmates went to RI and some to VS. So you see, we were given second chance because the school thinks we are still not to the state of incorrigible and also because we didn't really cause much damage. ( Maybe except disappointing our parents and our form teacher, who is a bitch anyway, so I don't really give a damn about her)
I got to admit, I didn't stop cheating after that. It actually got worst. In secondary school especially, because you ain't cool if u ain't cheating. Sometimes I get away wth it, sometimes I got busted, but even then, all I got was a stern warning. I never realised then that cheating could hurt, others and in the end ultimately yourself.
I am not really talking about tests and exams regarding this, I am talking about a relationship.
I cheated in mine. Just to clarify, I did not go out with other girls, I did not flirt with them, I was just very into the girl I was with. She was the only one in my heart then, the only star in my universe.
I cheatd on her simply by lying.
Well, I lie many times to her before( I mean who doesn't). But most are white lies an I believed every single guy has done that. Like that time I got a deep cut on my shin because I langgar goalpost while playing soccer. She kept asking me if I was in pain and I said no, but believe me, I was in a shitload of pain. But I lied to her because I didn't want her to worry, now that is a white lie.
This isn't
It was the FA cup semi-finals between Man U and Arsenal last season, the 3rd of April. The guys have planned it for a long time and I did not want to disappoint them. The initial plan was to go to someone's house to watch it, but at the last minute, he( llk) decided to go devil's bar to watch it. I was in a fix, I did not know what to do(because she doesn't like me going to clubs), should I tell her that I am going there or should I keep her in the dark and still pretend that I am going to his(llk) house to watch the match. In the end, I decided against telling her and kept up with the show because I knew if I told her she would be angry, not talk to me for a week. So I stayed on, Man U won 1-0, Paul Scholes scored the goal, I was on cloud nine cause Arsenal had been unbaten in like a kazillion matches before that, so I was naturally ecstatic, and so was llk. He then suggested we go to chinablack to celebrate where ken and kow will join us. I really felt like rejecting him because I didn't want to run the risk of getting caught but in the end, that llk managed to persuade me to go and I didn't want to be the spoilsport on such a happy night. So it was, we went to chinablack and we drank abit and danced. Didn't go pick up any girls though as I know I wasn't supposed to, told myself I am just here to enjoy myself with the guys, to celebrate Man U's truimph over Arsenal.
Then it happened, she called.
I didn't know what to do, I decided not to pick up and tell her I was in the toilet later when I move to a quieter place to call her. But, as fate would have it, I fumbled over the phone and pressed answer. I was stunned into paralysis, so she was able to hear I was in an environment of loud blasting music and dancing bodies. I only manged to end the call like 10 secs later Immediately, I ran downstairs and called her. I told her that I was at some kopitiam in serangoon but she wouldn't believe me and had no reason to really. So we broke up...the time was 1:17 am on the morning of the 4th of april.
That was no white lie. That was the darkest and blackest lie that I have ever said in my whole life.
Did I deserve a second chance? I thought so. Still not fully understanding the consequences of my actions that night.
So, I tried to contact her after that for a reconcilation but somehow, things just screws up everytime I tried and our relationship got from bad to worse and now its is just plain awful.
I thought maybe we are not fated to be together again, but then things she did and words she told others jut cuts me up...deep. The final straw came when she was going thru some difficulties with her family and approached me for help. I wouldn't go into details as it would take till tmr but the point is, I had a argument with my father because of this and did she appreciate it? Noooo.....she rejected the offer and said something that felt like a slap in a the face after u tried to help someone. I was angry, for the first time with her. The whole time I taken the blame for the breakup by myself, but what she has done was really too much and I was hurt, very very hurt and disappointed. Only then did i realised maybe I did not deserve a second chance and our relationship together became sweet memories without a chance of a resurrection. That was what I meant by when you cheat, u not ony hurt others but ultimately, u will hurt yourself.
So that was my long story. Mind u, what i did was just not being truthful, I did not become unfaithful at all and that already made me very miserable and guilty.
What's my point?
My point is that some of u guys/gals/man/woman/auntie/uncle/ah kong/ah ma out there have a perfectly loving partner who loves you and all they hope for is you returning the love to them.
But wat do u do?
You go outside and flirt around, constantly thinking of another person. Yea, u say u r just making friends and widening your social circle, ok fair enough. But just ask yourself this qn, how many sms-es do u send to these new friends of yours per day? and how many do u send to your partner? and how many of these sms-es to your partner contains " i love you"...My guess is probably very little or even none at all. And all the while, your partner gets kept in the dark and believes that the love between the 2 of you is still going strong and lasting, but u know for a fact that is not true right.
My advice, which according to llk is reasonably good for someone of my intelligence, is to love the one you love and the one who love you. If u r not meant to be together, then u r not meant to be together. You can't force a relationship.
In today's context, what you have done may be widely acceptable because most toms, dicks, and harrys are doing it. But u know for one that it is not, and that's why dicks are doing it, so r u trying to tell us that you are a dick?
Remember, cheating is fun and good because it gives you an advantage over others but it is also deadly because it hurts people and the person who is going to get hurt most is the cheater him/herself.
Well, I still believed that chelsea cheated!
posted by haoz @ 4/14/2005 08:53:00 AM
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